A War Nobody Should Join
Spend a few minutes on social media and you will find it: a running battle between young men and young women. On one side are feminist influencers who blame men for nearly every problem in the world: violence, oppression, inequality, even the outcome of elections. On the other side are “red pill” and “manosphere” personalities who blame women for nearly everything: broken families, ruined men, a decaying culture, and a failing nation. Each side posts clips of the worst things said by the other, and millions watch, comment, and share.
The divide is real. Gallup reported in 2024 that 40 percent of American women aged 18 to 29 now call themselves liberal, up from 28 percent in the early 2000s, while the share of young men calling themselves liberal stayed at about 25 percent. Young men and young women increasingly vote differently, think differently, and distrust one another. Into that gap has stepped an entire industry of commentators who profit from making it wider.
Two Armies, One Conclusion
The feminist side. After the 2024 election, the South Korean “4B” movement gained a following among some young American women. Its name comes from four Korean words beginning with bi, “no”: no dating men, no sex with men, no marriage to men, and no children. Other trends ran in the same direction: “decentering men,” and “boysober,” a term popularized by a Brooklyn comedian for stepping away from dating altogether. The message is that men are a burden and a danger, and that a woman is better off without a husband.
The “manosphere” side. On the other side stand movements like MGTOW, “Men Going Their Own Way,” which urges men to avoid marriage and serious relationships with women entirely. Influencers such as Andrew Tate, who faces criminal charges in Romania and Britain that he denies, built enormous audiences by telling young men that women are untrustworthy and that men must protect themselves from them. One popular podcaster titled his book Why Women Deserve Less. The message is that women are a burden and a danger, and that a man is better off without a wife.
Notice what has happened. Two camps that despise each other have arrived at exactly the same place. The feminist tells the young woman not to marry. The red-pill influencer tells the young man not to marry. Each blames the other sex for the decline of society, and each recommends the single life as the answer. When enemies agree on the conclusion, it is worth asking who benefits.
Pearl Davis and the Business of Outrage
One of the best-known figures in this war is Hannah Pearl Davis, known online as “Pearl” or “JustPearlyThings.” Born in 1996 and raised Catholic in the Chicago suburbs, she played volleyball at Elmhurst University and began making social media videos in 2020. She first gained a following on TikTok with a series called “Breakup Quiz,” in which she critiqued people’s failed relationships. Her YouTube channel now has about two million subscribers. She calls herself an anti-feminist and has said that divorce should be banned and that the right to vote should come with the military draft.
Much of her content follows a familiar pattern. She finds the most outrageous comments and videos posted by liberal women, plays them for her audience, and reacts, usually with mockery. Her street interviews and debates do the same. The comment sections fill with scorn. The format is effective and profitable: outrage draws views, and views draw income. She is far from alone; on both sides of this war, many commentators have built careers on finding the worst examples of the other sex and holding them up for ridicule.
To be clear, many of the women held up in these videos are not innocent victims. They have their own deep problems, and much of what they say and do is plainly unbiblical. But a Christian must ask whether mocking sinners for profit is the answer to their sin. Scripture says, “Fools make a mock at sin” (Proverbs 14:9), and James warns that with the same tongue we “bless we God, even the Father; and therewith curse we men, which are made after the similitude of God … My brethren, these things ought not so to be” (James 3:9–10).
“Inherently Feminist” and “The End of the Male Life Cycle”
In a recent episode of her show with the political commentator Nick Fuentes, titled roughly “America Is Cooked … And Trump Won’t Save It,” the two discussed women and marriage at length. The episode touched on many other subjects, some of which we strongly disagree with, but two of its claims are worth examining here.
Women are “inherently feminist.” Pearl asked Fuentes whether women had been “brainwashed into feminism,” as many conservatives say. He said no: “Women have moral responsibility like men do,” and their political interest “is to have more freedom, more power, more opportunities. So, I think they’re inherently feminist, women are.” Pearl agreed, and later went further, saying that society treats women as high-status “even though we’re losers.” Fuentes said that he deals with the problem by avoiding women entirely, and he called Christians “the biggest simps out of everybody” for supposedly caving to women.
Marriage ruins men. Later in the episode, Pearl said, “It’s cooked once they get married … men turn into a shell of themselves.” Fuentes agreed: “This is why I rail so hard against the traditionalists, cuz they’re like, ‘Oh, marriage makes you better.’ It makes women better, maybe.” He said marriage makes men “a shell of themselves. They’re less cool, they’re less funny,” and Pearl repeated a friend’s saying that “marriage is the end of the male life cycle.” She told of arguing with a young man who wanted to get married: “Why would you want to do that?”
It is striking that a commentator who once said divorce should be banned now asks young men why they would ever want to marry. But the larger point is this: here are two of the loudest anti-feminist voices on the internet, and their advice to young people is exactly what the feminists are saying, only with the sexes reversed.
What the Bible Says About Men and Women
The Bible does not flatter either sex. Both the feminist and the red-pill influencer imagine that the problem lies chiefly with the other sex. Scripture says the problem lies with all of us: “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23). “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked” (Jeremiah 17:9), and that is true of the heart of every man and every woman.
Is the woman naturally inclined to rebel against God’s order? Yes, but so is the man. In the Garden, Eve was deceived and took the fruit; Adam was not deceived, yet he ate with open eyes (Genesis 3:6; 1 Timothy 2:14). Scripture lays the fall of the race at the feet of the man: “by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin” (Romans 5:12). And from that day God foretold strife in the relationship between husband and wife (Genesis 3:16). Feminism is one expression of that fallen nature; the bitterness and contempt of the manosphere is another. Neither is a cure for the other. Both need the grace of God.
At the same time, God made both male and female in His image (Genesis 1:27), and in Christ they are “heirs together of the grace of life” (1 Peter 3:7). A Christian man may never speak of women as “losers,” nor a Christian woman of men as the enemy. “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it” (Ephesians 5:25). “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord” (Ephesians 5:22). That is not a war; it is a covenant.
What the Bible Says About Marriage
Against the voices that say marriage ruins men, God’s Word says the opposite. At creation, before sin entered the world, God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him” (Genesis 2:18). “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD” (Proverbs 18:22). “Marriage is honourable in all” (Hebrews 13:4). And marriage is far more than a social arrangement: it is a living picture of Christ and His church (Ephesians 5:31–32).
Singleness is not a sin, and some are called to it. Paul himself was single, and he called it a gift: “every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that” (1 Corinthians 7:7). But it is a gift given to some, not a rule laid on everyone, and Paul adds plainly, “it is better to marry than to burn” (1 Corinthians 7:9). The idea that the single life is best for everyone, that marriage is a trap to be avoided, is not the teaching of Scripture. In fact, Paul warned that in the latter times some would depart from the faith, “giving heed to seducing spirits, and doctrines of devils … forbidding to marry” (1 Timothy 4:1–3).
A Shrinking World
Ideas have consequences. A record 25 percent of 40-year-old Americans had never married as of 2021, according to the Pew Research Center, up from 20 percent in 2010. In 2025 the U.S. fertility rate fell to a new record low, with about 3.6 million births, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Across much of the developed world, populations are already shrinking. There are many causes, but a culture that teaches young men and young women to see each other as enemies, and marriage as a mistake, will not raise the next generation.
God’s first command to mankind was, “Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth” (Genesis 1:28). “Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward … Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them” (Psalm 127:3, 5). The gender war preaches the opposite gospel: that children are a burden, a spouse is a liability, and the self is the only thing worth serving.
The Virtuous Woman
Both camps in this war have a picture of womanhood. The feminist pictures a woman who puts her career first, her independence second, and her household, if she has one, somewhere after that. The manosphere often pictures a woman who is either a vain, scheming liability or a decorative ornament with nothing to contribute. In the interview above, Pearl said she does not think a stay-at-home mother’s work is a full-time job.
The Bible paints a very different woman, and she puts both caricatures to shame:
She is defined by her character, wisdom, and diligent stewardship, not by superficial charm or beauty: “Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised” (Proverbs 31:30). She is no idle ornament. “She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands” (v.13). “She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar” (v.14). “She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard” (v.16). She runs her own enterprise: “She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night” (v.18). “She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant” (v.24).
Yet all her industry serves her household, not her own ambition. “She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness” (v.27). Her husband trusts her, and “Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her” (v.28). Her home is her priority, and her husband is honored because of her: “Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land” (v.23). Paul gives the same pattern when he tells the older women to teach the younger “to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed” (Titus 2:4–5).
This woman is not the modern feminist, who puts career before household. Nor is she the “loser” of the manosphere’s imagination. She is strong, capable, wise, productive, and godly, and her strength is spent in love for her family and fear of the LORD. A man who finds such a wife has found a treasure, and a culture that despises her has despised one of God’s greatest gifts.
Christians, Stay Out of the Middle
Christians should be wary of this movement on both sides, and should not be drawn into the middle of it. The gender war feeds on contempt, and contempt is not a fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22–23). It profits from mockery, but “every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment” (Matthew 12:36). It turns half of the human race into the enemy, but our warfare is “not against flesh and blood” (Ephesians 6:12). And it teaches young people to fear and avoid the very institution God created for their good.
Christian men should not adopt the bitterness of the manosphere toward women, nor Christian women the bitterness of feminism toward men. Neither should Christians make heroes of influencers who earn their living by stirring up strife between the sexes. “A froward man soweth strife” (Proverbs 16:28). Instead, let Christian husbands love their wives as Christ loved the church, let Christian wives honor their husbands, let Christian parents teach their children that marriage is honourable, and let the church pray for the many young people who have been wounded and confused by this war.
Above all, remember that the answer to the sin of men and women alike is not a movement but a Saviour. “There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus” (Galatians 3:28). In Christ, men and women who were enemies by nature are reconciled to God and to one another. That is the only peace treaty that will ever end the war between the sexes.
Sources: “America Is Cooked … And Trump Won’t Save It,” the Just Pearly Things Show with Nick Fuentes (transcript); Gallup, “Exploring the Growing Liberal Views of Young Women,” September 12, 2024; Pew Research Center, “A record-high share of 40-year-olds in the U.S. have never been married,” June 28, 2023; Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, provisional 2025 birth data, April 2026; reporting on the 4B and “boysober” trends (NPR and member stations, November 2024; TODAY, 2024); background on Hannah Pearl Davis from public reporting.